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The Coach's Coach - Part I

· Goal Setting,Coaching,Self-Improvement

The modern Coaching movement was begun by Mr. Thomas J. Leonard. Unfortunately, I did not have the personal experience of attending any of his programs before he passed away suddenly. But my coach knew him personally and helped him to develop some of his programs. Through my discussions with her, I have learned a lot about Thomas and his vision for Coaching. In this issue, I’d like to share the Principles of Irresistible Attraction that he outlined in his book, The Portable Coach. In February, we celebrate International Coaches Week (bringing greater awareness about the profession) and also the anniversary of the passing of Mr. Leonard on February 11th.

So, with this post and the next, I want to share some points for you to think about as it relates to attracting things to you:

  1. Become incredibly selfish. Without you, there is nothing, and attraction isn’t possible.
  2. Unhook yourself from the Future.  Attraction works in the Present, not in the Future.
  3. Over-respond to every event.  By over-responding instead of over-reacting, you evolve, which is very attractive.
  4. Build a super reserve in every area.  Having enough is not clearly enough for you to be irresistibly attractive.
  5. Add value, just for the joy of it.  When you add value because you enjoy it, people are naturally attracted to you.
  6. Affect others profoundly.  The more you touch others, the more attractive you’ll become.
  7. Market your talents shamelessly.  If you’re embarrassed about what you do well, you won’t be attractive.
  8. Become irresistibly attractive to yourself.  How can you attract others if you don’t feel irresistibly attractive to yourself?
  9. Get a fulfilling life, not just an impressive lifestyle.  A great life is attractive; a lifestyle is usually seductive.
  10. Deliver twice what you promise.  When you consistently deliver more than was expected, new customers are drawn to you.
  11. Create a vacuum which pulls you forward.  Being pulled forward is attractive, pushing forward is not.
  12. Eliminate delay.  Time is expensive and thus is very unattractive.
  13. Get your personal needs met, once and for all.  If you have unmet needs, you’ll attract others in the same position.
  14. Thrive on the details.  Subtleties, details, nuances are more attractive than the obvious.

Now you have the first half of the 28 points outlined by Mr. Leonard. The second half will come in the next post.

Share your comments below about how any of these 14 points may have impacted you to think or do something differently with a professional or personal issue.

"Challenges make you discover things about yourself that you never really knew. They’re what make the instrument stretch – what makes you go beyond the norm." – Cicely Tyson